I had sex with 3 different guys
I’m not a cele member but I have a friend who goes to cele (CCC) and I go there to shona once in a while, I had a boyfriend , who had a child and a baby mama they were giving us issues and the guy wasn’t responsible so I left him, I went to one of my male friends house and passed the night then we had sex, this was in April, and the after I and my boyfriend had a fall out, it really affected me I started going for party, started clubbing, and smoking, drinking also these are things I don’t do on a norm, so one day my friend invited me to a party and I went, so I met another guy there and the following we he invited me to a party in Osun state of which i wasn’t able to go and when he came back to Lagos he invite me to his lounge and from there we got lodged and had sex, subsequently I noticed he changed, he doesn’t talk to me as he used to, so later I and my boyfriend came back together and we had sex and after a while again we broke up and 2wks later I started seeing some bump like things around my vaginal and when I checked online I says its and STI (Sexually Transmitted Infection) and when I called my friend she told me the same, and since then my mind has been disturbed and I’ve been remembering the things they told me the last time I went to church that I should stay away from party and men, and something was just bringing different thoughts to my head like maybe the guy used me or something, because I’ve not seen him since the day we went to the lounge, and each time I try to see him he brings up a story. but I didn’t listen, Sister Abeke pls help me
Thank you for sending in your dilemma. Firstly, I would like to make it clear that if you have not done so already, please go to your nearest clinic to have a sexual health checkup. Spirituality aside this is important when you encounter any changes. This is in relation to the spots you previously mentioned on your vaginal area.
Moving forward, another concern is how this affected you emotionally. I do feel as though you may need to pause and reflect, because if we do not know where we are coming from how do we know where we are going?
Ask yourself these three questions:
1. What do I want from my future spouse?
2. Have I healed from these men and my experiences with them?
3. Are my ways pleasing God?
I think most importantly, in my opinion, you may have misunderstood what the woli said at ishona. We should be very careful not to add or assume conclusions on what God did not say.
The word of God makes it clear in the book of Colossians 3:5 “Therefore put to death your members which are on the earth: fornication, uncleanness, passion, evil desire, and covetousness, which is idolatry.”
God does not want you to be engaging in sex outside of marriage. A prophet sent by God will see the things that will lead us to temptation of such and will tell us to refrain or avoid such activity. Hence why I said a moment of reflection is needed – Are my ways pleasing God?
Overthinking will not solve any of your issues, repenting of your sins and getting closer to God in prayer would definitely help. There are times where we do not require the guidance of a woli but we require the hand of God. If you want a different output you need to change the input. I suggest doing something differently and that is building a stronger relationship with Christ. Seeking God directly for answers my sister and the outcome may just amaze you.