Approaching 40 years am still husbandless still childless

Sometimes I sit and wonder if am justunlovable. I know one should not comp[are others but all my friends and sisters have married or are getting married and starting families. Though am happy for them it makes me depressed about my own situation because of my age and av been waiting for years with no man paying me mind.

Could it be spiritual sister? I do not no who to talk to because most people around me do not understand they say maybe am too picky or my expectations too much but I feel am a very simple lady.
Darling sister. The devil is a liar! You’re not alone and you are Not unlovable! You’re so lovable that Jesus died for you. Please let that sink in. I appreciate your honesty and the beauty of your open heart as I know that you opening up will help encourage so many women and not just you. In this moment God is truly using you as a blessing for many.

Waiting on God for anything that we really desire can often times become unbearable. Especially a companion, I amongst many other men and women can understand this. Yet it’s within these times of waiting that the devil plays with our mind and places all sorts of thoughts there. It is also at these times that we must draw even closer to the Word of God and test the spirit. Both of our thoughts and also the different counsel we are receiving. Does it match the Word of God? If it doesn’t then it is of the devil.

Pearl of great price- I believe that you are not picky but you know your worth and more importantly you have great expectations of your Heavenly Father. That is extremely commendable and you must not put yourself down for it. If you are believing God, the Maker of the Whole world for a husband- don’t settle for anything less than what would honour Him. In fact don’t settle. Submit.
What do I mean?

Submit to the Word of God. I cannot tell you whether or not you not yet being with a spouse is spiritual but what I can say is that Jehovah has the final say. The scripture says ‘Who can speak a word and it come to pass unless the Lord has commanded it’- Lamentations 3. If it is spiritual you have already won the victory and the price was the precious blood of Jesus.
Dearest daughter of Zion, the writer of proverbs was right when he said- hope deferred makes the heart sick. It must be painful seeing others receiving what you have been desiring for so long but don’t lose hope and don’t devalue yourself! When I first read your message in honesty I was truly inspired. Sis. Some of the people you see that look so happy on the outside cry themselves to sleep.

I have witnessed and heard testimonies of countless women who thought they married one man and in fact received something different. God knows what’s best for us and all things work together for good unto those that love the Lord. I attended an anniversary recently and the Minister spoke something very profound: he said you can be married to a man but not a husband. Sister mi, many of our women are unfortunately in that predicament and out of a lack of patience and flowing with the world’s time clock are suffering from it!

The fact that you have waited this far, dear woman of God- please don’t stop waiting. I know it’s hard and the struggle is tiring but one of my mentors shares the same testimony as you and in due season God favoured her beyond her expectation. The man God blessed her with values her bi eyin- like an egg! God has something great destined for you but His Greatest desire for all of us is to prepare us for our Heavenly Home. We are first and foremost the Bride of Christ Jesus and so I beg you like I so often do to lay your desire down. Sometimes our desires and the world’s pressure helps us to make an idol out of what God designed for His Purpose. Ultimately my dearest sister- only His Will is to be done if we are going to have a successful life in HIS design for it so pray this prayer with me- we’ll both be praying it together.

Lord, At times I really wonder why You have not yet provided me with a husband but I know that You know best. In those times when my mind is racing and the world are mocking me may you give me peace. May my heart be set on you. Father the bible says that You are my Husband and yet I so often find myself desiring an earthly one above You and Your perfect Will. I know You see my heart and You care. Please come and give me the desires of Your Heart. Help me to trust You as I wait for what You have for me. Help me to serve You wholeheartedly irrespective of what You give to me and whether or not You answer this plea for You alone are God and You Alone know best. No one else can teach me or heal me as You can so I surrender my life into Your Care. I thank You for You love me beyond my understanding and as high are the heavens are to the earth so is Your wisdom. Forgive me for letting the wisdom of the world cloud my judgement of who You are and who I am to You. I declare that I am precious in Your sight and that will never change. Make me more like you and set my face as a flint in the presence of my adversaries. Fight for me. Heal me O God and do what only You can do. Most importantly. Let Your Will be done. In thanksgiving I pray. Amen

Author: Abeke